so i already posted this on the first place, but i need help. seriously.
and i know and understand that there are other who need this way more, like woman who have had body image issues for a majority of their lives, but i need help so i dont end up like that.


Carson,
I dont know if you even read these and you've probably hear it all the time, but i need your help and i'm desperate.
My name is Caroline, i'm 16 almost 17 and i have huge built in body image issues.
i've always had them, but since i got into highschool they have been getting worse and last year was the tipping point.
on may 21st, 08 i was diagnosed with Anorexia nervosa bing subtype 2. i'm a recovering anorexic and i'm not even a senior in highschool.
i'm the not the worst case and i hope never too be. i'm healthy again, everyday is a small struggle to eat but i dont want to stop my progress, but i need your help on the rest.
my body image issues are still growing and i want to love my body! i cant live like this for the rest of my life. i want to go places, strive for huge goals and have a family, and i dont want this image problem to hold me back! i need your help! and another to make it worse is that my best friend who i love to death has the 'perfect' body and it doesnt help me with anything! i just dont know what to do anymore. i want to be the caroline i know i can be and i want to be, but this is holding me back in life! in everything. i want to see what everyone else say they see! it's frustrating because i'm blind to my own self.
so i'm still trying to find away to email lifetime to get your help, but this is the only way i can think of....it's frustrating.
thank you for reading this....if you did lol
cant wait till the next season!
Love Caroline


does anyone know how to get on the show?

I have extreme body issues...
I cry when I look in the mirror...
My boyfriends gets frustrated because of it..
I just can't stand to look at myself!!

I teach Gender Studies at the college level and have included How To Look Good Naked on my syllabus when we study body issues. I recently had one student write an enthusiastic and impassioned response on her experience with viewing the show:
"After watching several episodes, I immediately got down to my undies and bra and took a gander in the mirror. All of a sudden, I didn't see the flaws that I have been obsessing about for the past couple of years. I finally began to focus on the positive aspects of my body. The sudden self-esteem boost was one that I haven't experienced in the longest time. It felt great!" The student goes on to say that she has been focusing on creating a healthy lifestyle, has encouraged her roommates and friends to watch the show, and is no longer a slave to the scale.
This show is impacting women across ALL ages; it's an outstanding start in the right direction for reversing these detrimental trends, attitudes, and perceptions that "weigh" our fabulous women down!

Thank you Carson and the creators of this show!!

Iam almost 39 and unfortunately am finally at 120lbs, I am 5' 7". I have gone through my whole life being called "Olive Oil" and being told that if I stood sideways and stuck my tongue out I would look like a zipper. I HATE MY BODY!!!! I keep hearing that I should appreciate that I am thin but I hate it!!!! I wish people would understand that it is just as hard to be on the under side of the spectrum as it is to be on the over side. Try to find age appropriate clothes for my size "0". Anything that I can find say "hello kitty" across the rear end!!!!

Hi i am only 20 years old and about to get married in may! We have been together for 3 years and he is great but i have the worst time tursting him and he has never giving me any reason not too but i look at other girls and think why would he want to be with me if he can be with them i hate the way i look dressed or not i hate it i have no self confedence and no respect for myself and it is causing a big problem with me and my soon to be husband and i dont know what to do... He tells me he loves me and only me and says that he thinks that i am beautiful and i know deep down that he does think that but it does not help that i am very jelous and i am so scared i am going to loose him bc of that i really need help to be happy with myself and to love who i am can anyone give me any advice does anyone know how to go on this show???

GAH! i am watching the episode with Patricia right now. it's making me miserable. i'm only 21 years old and consider myself attractive, but i have NEVER been as thin or as naturally beautiful as Patricia is. if someone as beautiful as her isn't happy, who can be? i guess this just goes to show that perceived beauty doesn't necessarily equal happiness.

Carson, I am 53...4'11" and 165 pounds. My daughter is 26...she takes my breath away...she's so beautiful...so amazing...5'6" ...probably 225 lbs....Size 22...she's so unhappy with her appearance. Two college degrees,.....successfull...amazing...doesn't realize it~


I'm insecure because I"ve lost about 85 pounds...I work at a large, large.....150-year-old retailer...as an HR professional. I've come in a long way in life. My daughter doesn't realize how beautiful and successful she is because she compares herself to 110=pound friends. Can you help? I'm willing to put my 53 year old body out there...if it helps my beautiful baby. Let's talk. Dallas is a beautiful place!

Carson. when is the next casting call? We want to help our co-worker really shine. She HATES herself and her body but she is totally hot, inside and out. please help.

first of all I love Carson and this show. Every time I watch it I feel so uplifted and think "Wow, these women are so beautiful inside and out" AND they have body issues???!!! What??!! Then I remember that I do the same thing, I rag on parts of my body as well. esp my stomach. You see my mom unfortunately asks me everytime I see her, "why can't u you be more skinny like you cousin who is 16 and like 40lbs" ok I'm exagerrating but that's what she does. When I tell my mom that I got another raise or promotion at work, she says, "uh uh that's nice. so have u lost weight yet? you should try this diet and that diet?" then she'll grab me by the waist and put be in front of the mirror to show me what is wrong with me. And right there, I pull away and quickly get away from her. I love my mom but I don't like seeing her much cause my look and weight is all she focuses on. Not that since I was 21, I've got my own place, paying for my own car, i have a great job and a great fiancee. So whenever I start to feel bad about myself, I watch this show and realize, I am beautiful. Hell, I'm hot!!! then I put on my favorite clothing which is my skin. which btw is my fiancee's favortite too

CARSON I LOVE YOUR SHOW, MY FAVORITE WAS KELLY IN SEPT.I WAS SO EXCITED ALL OF THE FITS,UNDERWEAR,HAIRSTYLES WHERE A BLAST. I HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT THE BLACK AND WHITE DRESS I JUST FELL IN LOVE. I HAVE A RETIREMENT FUNCTION COMING FOR MY MOM AND WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THAT EVEN IF U COULD TELL ME SIMILAR STYLE. HERE IS A LITTLE ABOUT ME. AM 40 SIZE 18 AND I LOVE A SHOE WITH A HEEL TO GIVE THE LEGS SOME WOW. MY FUNCTION IS NOVEMBER 20TH OF 2008.. PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS ONE....

I am a soon-to-be 43 year old single mom who has had a problem buying jeans for my whole life. I have a size 10 or so waist, and a size 12 or so hip. I can't find a thing to fit me properly. I feel I have a triangular shaped butt. My daughter is sick of hearing me complain about it. Does anyone have any suggestions on finding jeans without spandex that would look good, be appropiate for work/going out, and don't cost a fortune?

Dear Carson,
I am going to turn 29 this year & have not been happy with my body my entire life. I am not the only one in my family, my mother & sister feel the same way.

I have watched my sister spiral into deeper & deeper depression. She always felt fat & took comfort in food. She is such a beautiful person & woman. She has spent her life for others. She worked for years in assisted living for mentally & physically handicapped people & now takes care of our uncle who has down syndrome. She has been like a second mother to my brother & I. She always gives everything to the people around her. She even took in my brother's two friends when they were kicked out of there homes at 18. She let them live in her home till they could take care of themselves. She is an amazing person & it kills me inside to know she can not even look in the mirror without feeling sad & unhappy. When she was 19 she was hit in a car accident & the doctors told her to lose weight & her back pain would go away. She had the cartilage in two of her vertebra missing. She later went through surgery to have it fixed after two years of doctors telling her that she was too fat. She gained weight during all of this & I could see her falling deeper into depression. I thought she was getting better when she marred her boyfriend of 7years, but I was wrong. She went on a trip for work & came home to find he had taken her checkbook & spent $32000, pond her car tittle & forged her name on all of it. She is now married again. She loves him & I hoped she would be happy, but she still feels depressed about her weight that she can not lose. She is 5'7" & 230bl.

My mother is the same way, that is where wee learned it from. Her love & kindness to others was a great inspiration to her children, but she is getting older & has told me for years that she is not happy with how she looks or feels. She is 5' & has an amazing personality. She has worked in assisted living like my sister & I. She has always helped those in need no matter what. Now that all of her children have moved out she have felt worse & has been hiding in her own house for the past 2yrs. She & my father have moved back to northern MN where we grew up. My sister has been try to get her to go out more, but she comes up with excuses why not to. I live in CO & can not help that much.

My deepest wish is for them to see what beautiful people they are & finally be happy.

Then there is me. I have grown up with my mother telling me "you know when I was your age I never weighed over 100lb." She never meant to make me sick but in my teens I would starve myself to try to be what she wanted me to be. I was so desperate for her love & approval that I went down to 86lb at 5'5". I still felt fat & was never truly happy. I would were baggy close to hide myself & would never let anyone see me any where close naked. LOL!I know I was a teen, but I lived in MN & all me friends would go swimming & where shorts, but I would sit on the shore with my extra large tee shirt & jeans. I still don't where shorts. I have scares on my legs & do not want people to see them. When I was 16 I was in a car accident & had the skin on my nose, left cheek & chin ripped off. I have a scar under my chin & my temple & scars on my lips. I have been told that you can not even see them, but I do ever time I look in the mirror. I now weigh 193lb & feel sick every time I look in the mirror. I keep telling myself that I have to eat, but every day it gets harder & harder. I have been on every diet there is & still can not lose the extra weight. I would go to the gym everyday & work out for 3hrs a day, I went down to 160lbs, but I still felt fat & ugly. I have never felt like I was like everyone else. I have red hair, always have. I always felt like I was a beckon in a crowed. Like I was the freak you could spot no matter how I hid. I could from a family with blond hair or chestnut brown. I always felt like I stuck out.

Please help us to fell better about our selves. Please help my sister & mother to fell better about them selves. I love them so much & want nothing more then for then to feel great about them selves.

I'm 14 and I am quite the opposite of a "normal" size body. My mother and I both want to be on this show to gain self esteem, confidence, and to truly fall in love with our bodies. I've always been big, but my mom was extremely skinny as a teen.

Does anybody know how I can get onto the show?

Hello there. My name is nicole and my mother and I watch your show every week. Every week my mother jus crys her eyes out everytime she watches your show. She completly understands and can relate to these women on your show. It breaks my heart to see her get so upset. She is 45 years of age and is the best mother I could ever ask for. She truly is a very special person and is always helping others. She has always been there for me and sacraficed so much for my well being. I've never known anyone more amazing than her. My mother has been a respiratory therapist for the last 15 years and very dedicated to her job. Sadly, she has had some horrible things happen to her along life journey. Just recently she found out that her husband, my fahter, has been cheating on her. This has only made things worse for her self esteem. She has been married to this man for almost 21 years and she feels like complete dirt. My mom has always had a self esteem problem since I can remeber. After she had surgery eight years ago she has felt and made her self feel completly disgusting, not to mention she has been diagnosed with a life long conditon of hives due to stress and her marriage. Its not bad at all. I cant even take her shopping without tears streaming down her face. I love her so much and I think she is perfect the way she is but sadly she does not feel the same way, she feels the total opposite. My mother feels that her butt is way to big and what she calls a shelf so her pants dont fit right. Her boobs are large so shirts and bras never fit correctly either. My mom feels that she weighs more than she should for being 5"1. She also hates her hair. She gets so frustrated with it. I understand her body is uniquely shaped and I just want her to be happy. I want her to love her self like everyone else see her. She gets compliments all the time for how young she looks for her age. She just needs someone to show her how to dress and look good naked! Please help her I dont know what to do anymore. After everything she has been through she really deserves some kind of help. Thank You for your time.
Nicole

Hi Carson

i love your show so much it makes me feal real good about my self, and it helps me get throught the day because i know im beautiful and i dont care that people think , because i am and i see that after every show and im only 16 and im not a size 0-13. im a pluse size 16 year old girl and loves it beause of your show. you make me relize that i can be the best i can be by what ever i have and my body is never going to bring me down and it never will. and i thank you for that.

loves so much ~ D ~

Hi to Carson and the rest of the wonderful people at "How to look good naked"

When watching this show the first thing I thought was "I would love to be on this show!" but then the immediate thought that follows is my mom, Sharon NEEDS to be on this show!

I don't even know where to begin telling you about her, but she is by far the most amazing person I have ever had the chance to meet, and have serious doubts that there will be many others who are as special as she is. I know a lot of people say that about their parents, but she truly is an exceptional woman, and I wish she could realize that in herself.

My mom has ALWAYS been there to give me guidance and encouragement in my life, a trait that I have to say was because of the amazing role model she had growing up, her mother. This line of strong women that has now passed down to my own daughter. The thing that the women in our family has always instilled in its descendants is the ability to weather tremendous storms and yet still come out shinning brighter than the even the sun itself. Unfortunately another trait that also follows is the lack of self recognition, which is something I have started to weed out of our DNA starting with myself and then my daughter. Unfortunately that is something my mother never has realized that was needed, this is why that I pray to the Divine that this letter will reach the people who can give her the guidence to realize what a beautiful, amazing and strong woman she is.

My mom has gone through some very difficult things in her life, things that most people could not even imagine that it was possible to get through. Just some of these including her first husband taking what little money they had and deserting her in a state far from her loving family. Her second and final husband (my father) went to prison around 1988 and then died there in 2000 for child abuse. Even this situation she showed what a kind hearted person she is. I was to young to fully comprehend his crimes but knew that I loved my "daddy" and was having a very hard time with his separation from our family and his prison sentence. She continued to allow me to see him, even after he was sentenced. This came out of the love she had for me, even through her hurt an anger toward my dad, she never let that show to me. People often wonder why she did that, he had literally riped our family apart in almost every aspect that you can think of, but she continued to love her child enough to endure the upset of seeing him at visits. This event in her life left her with two children to feed and only her income, we often went without things like a phone, gas for heating etc. and did not have the biggest variety in food. She did the best that she could with the cards that were dealt to her but we always had a bed, roof over our head, something to eat in the kitchen and as Cliché as it may sound, absolutely we never questioned the love she had for us. She has even helped me support my own daughter for the last 13 years, especially the first 5 years after I got pregnant at the age of 15. She has survived utern cancer, still working at the age of 68, is on more than 6 medications for all the problems she has that was caused by the retail type work she has always done, an emergency surgery in April for an extremely rare hernia that could have easily killed her. This incredible woman has experienced so many traumas in her life that is more than any one person should have to experience in one lifetime.

I want you to know that she has been my rock since I can remember, she has never felt pretty and the older and more "crippled up" she gets, the more I think she is feeling farther from ever feeling pretty. I want more than anything else for her to feel the way about herself that she makes everyone else feel when she enters a room. She has so much love for people that it should be shared with herself. I plan to post, email and snail mail this to anyone that I can in the hopes that Carson and the producers will consider her for the show.

Thank you for taking the time to read this,
Stacy

Hi!! I watched Kelly tonight, she transformed into the beautiful, confident woman she already was but just didn't know or remember she is! I cry each and every time I watch your show Carson! I would love to know you, you are so awesome and inspiring and loving! Like other women, I too would love to be on your show but am sure there are absolutely a million requests to do so, so will not go there. I just wanted to commend Kelly and commend you on a successful time tonight!! Take care and keep up the great work!!

I LOVE this show! I would kill to be on it,but I am on the East Coast and none of these shows ever come out here! Ahh!!

I just downloaded all the previous shows on iTunes and cannot wait to watch them on the beach next week on my vacation.

I am getting married in a month and cannot wait to wear that gown! I am a plus sized girl and feel like a princess for once in my life!