Cosmically Connected Twins

Ophira and Tali Edut are writers, designers, astrological goddesses and identical twin sisters. They are a go-to source for guidance on personal satisfaction. Looking for love? Need a career boost? Is wedding stress transforming you into a bridezilla? Tali and Ophira draw on astrological signs and charts for answers. As twins, they know the value of balancing relationships with individual goals in mind. Read on to learn about twin telepathy, their unique weddings and how knowing your sign can lead to happiness.

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Twins share their early lives together in a profound way, so how do you enter adulthood and learn to create your own identity?

 

TE: We don’t even try to do that. I don’t think it’s happened. I think we are married to each other as well as to our husbands, so we kind of just let ourselves be. We’ll wear the same thing accidentally … we both bought peacock earrings at the same time on opposite coasts. We’ll do things like that. When we were little we were kind of the opposite; we didn’t ever try to dress alike, really.

 

OE: We had one year where … we didn’t have the popularity thing … we had to make ourselves stand out by playing up the twin thing in fifth and sixth grades, so we dressed alike and we kind of capitalized on it.

 

How has your business together affected your twin relationship?

 

TE: It works really well. We happen to be bad at the same things and good at the same things. So we’ve picked a business with things we’re both good at. We’re kind of lucky; we have a natural sense of fairness and balance.

 

Were you in the same classroom in school?

 

OE: No, we were always separated. Our mom was really good about that. Our mom and dad always made sure that we had our own identities.

 

Did you share a bedroom?

 

Both: Yeah, but that was fun. We wouldn’t have wanted our own rooms.

 

 

People are always fascinated by the concept of twin telepathy. Do you have the ability to know what the other is thinking, or sense her feelings?

 

OE: She had all my pregnancy symptoms!

 

TE: She had none. I was nauseous for the first month and a half, to the point where I thought Am I pregnant? But I wasn’t.

 

OE: And I was all bragging, “I have no symptoms.”

 

TE: And I had cramps in the middle of the day. The only way for me to make them stop was for me to call her. It was weird. And then cravings, and since she’s been pregnant I’ve gained about five pounds and I’ve been cranky.

 

OE: You can lose the baby weight for both of us.

 

TE: I’ve been acting like a pregnant woman since she’s been pregnant. It’s true. I had a dream, a really visionary dream that I was swimming around with the baby. I feel like I met her baby and got a message to be a second mother to her baby.

 

OE: Can you do the labor for me, please?

 

TE: That’s been the biggest psychic experience. We’ve had other, little ones, but this is one of the bigger ones for us.

 

Have you ever dated somebody who was a twin?

 

OE: No, but nearly every guy I’ve ever dated has one parent who was a twin, including my husband.

 

TE: And my husband was a twin, but one of the babies sort of got absorbed, so he was meant to be a twin, but that didn’t happen, so he is kind of two in one.

 

You’re both married now, but when you were on the dating scene, was it difficult to explain your special bond to non-twins?

 

OE: Our husbands really respect it, and they understand and they honor the relationship. I did have one boyfriend who had a really hard time with it.

 

TE: Oh yeah. Now we’re cool, but we clashed hard-core, to the point where I didn’t even talk to him for three months. He gave me the silent treatment. He wanted to be the center of her universe.

 

OE: It was also a turning point, because that was a point when our identity did need to go through a little evolution. We did need to find our own way. We were a little overly involved in each other’s lives … a little twin codependence.

 

TE: It was good. We were too close for comfort. We were too codependent, and he broke that.

 

Who got married first?

 

OE: I did.

 

Tali, I know you were happy for Ophira, but was it also difficult for you to watch your twin start a new phase of her life that didn’t include you?

 

TE: I never felt so under the spotlight in my life. I had a guy who I thought I was going to marry when she met her husband. I realized that I couldn’t marry him, because I actually saw what her husband-to-be [was like] — how devoted he was, time-wise, and how integrated their lives had become — and my boyfriend at the time, even though he was a great guy and he’s still a good friend, liked his space so much. I decided to enjoy being single [when Ophira got married]. Maybe I did it rebelliously because everyone said “You’re next, you’re next.”

 

OE: They put a lot of pressure on her. She didn’t put it on herself. She said she was fine and happy for her sister. She and my husband, Jeffrey, have similar personalities and roles. They are more of the joking, wilder, warmer ones, and her husband, Cory, and I are more introverted, thoughtful and introspective. So, we married men who are similar to each other’s personalities.

 

TE: But I did realize when I got engaged that I was born married. I already knew what it was about. It’s a life partnership with somebody. Well, OK, I’ve done that to a degree.

 

I heard your weddings were incredibly different. How so?

 

OE: Well, I was the first one married and I didn’t really know if my sisters would get married … and my mom is a rabbi, and I had to let her do the wedding. We also had my husband’s family come in from Holland, and my family came in from Israel. So I thought I’ll take one for the team and I’ll do the big wedding. I had a seven-year-old stepdaughter who wanted to be involved — she picked out my dress — so it felt more right to do it family-oriented.

 

 

TE: Her wedding was really fun, but I felt like I had been through the big wedding, because we share almost all of the same friends, and my husband is very private. He doesn’t have a big a family at all. We met at “Burning Man” and decided we would get married there.

 

OE: That’s how our personalities are different. I could never get married at “Burning Man.” I went, and it was a fascinating experience, but I didn’t love it or connect to it the way she does. I couldn’t see her getting married in a loft in New York City and not feeling that she wasn’t compromising herself.

 

Tali, did your mom marry you?

 

TE: No, we did a family celebration afterward. One of our friends did [marry us]. Our family wasn’t up for it, but she [Ophira] came. She read a letter from my mom. We got married in a camp. My husband built two seven-foot-tall sphinxes, rubber chicken sphinxes out of papier-mâché …

 

OE: … because the theme that year was “evolution,” so we did the chicken-and-the-egg theme, so we had the chicken sphinxes and then …

 

TE: … a 40-foot dome. We got these white military parachutes so it was an egg, and we had this giant six-foot orb of light as a yolk …

 

OE: … and a yellow gigantic beach ball. The most fun was actually decorating that thing.

 

TE: So we built it and had this insanely creative wedding.

 

OE: I was glad I was there, because nobody else there had done a wedding, and I knew in spite of it being at “Burning Man,” it still needed some planning.

 

TE: I didn’t want to deal at all. We came up with our vows an hour before, and they were perfect.

 

 

Is there one “twin question” you always get asked that annoys you?

 

TE: It’s more like when people say, “Do you ever look in the mirror and think you’re her?” Although that did happen to us both a couple of times!

 

OE: I actually walked into a mirror once when I was a kid.

 

TE: The one that I hate is, “Did you ever play tricks on your boyfriends?” or “Did you ever take a test for her in school?” It’s like, “No, why would I ever want to take an extra test?”

 

How do you explain astrology to someone new to the concept? Why should people know about their charts?

 

TE: Coded in your chart is information about your basic tendencies as a person. We don’t just tell you why you’re doing things. We tell you how to counterbalance it, how to work with it.

 

OE: They say people don’t come with an owner’s manual, but you actually do. It’s kind of like a blueprint of your soul. When you understand it, you have more power in your life. You get who you are, you accept it, and then you go from there.

 

It’s a total cliché to approach someone in a bar and ask, “What’s your sign?” But how soon into a new relationship should someone know the other person’s sign?

 

Both: As soon as possible!

 

TE: It should be the third question, after “What’s your name?” and “How are you doing?”

 

OE: It should definitely be in the first conversation.

 

Do you try to match people based on their signs, and does that work?

 

OE: We match people based on their energy, and then we tell them how to navigate the relationship based on their sign. The whole “perfect match” thing is a myth.

 

TE: We think of relationships not as the perfect fairy-tale ending, but [tell people] “Be ready to see some new parts of yourself.”

 

How should brides use astrology to help them plan their wedding?

 

TE: Location, type of wedding, how to handle the mother-in-law, how to handle bridesmaids, what to wear.

 

OE: Relationship dynamics are always at the heart of what makes astrology useful. When you’re engaged and the stress starts to build, everybody’s interpersonal dynamics come out, so it’s very useful to know how to deal with people when they start flipping out about flowers, or centerpieces, or napkins or the guest list.

 

How should couples incorporate astrology into their marriage without focusing on every little detail, every day?

 

TE: It’s just a continuous evolution … how you want to create your life together. Astrology is useful in knowing how your signs intermix and what your long-term life priorities and values are.

 

OE: Understanding your own sign’s needs is important, too, because than you can get them met for yourself as well, so you can come to the relationship happy and full, and continue to fill yourself up. Happiness magnetizes happiness.

 

 

Later this year, Tali and Ophira are releasing a series of downloadable e-book guides on dating, wedding planning, travel, careers, sexy bedroom decor and more! The books will focus on each sign and describe how all 12 can collaborate cosmically. You can also get your monthly horoscope, and read more from The AstroTwins on the myLifetime.com Astrology site!

 

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