Needing some advice! My boyfriend and I started dating about 9 months ago after being friends for about 2 years- and AFTER deciding to become roomates!! - I know! Things were kinda different at first during the transition from kinda hang out friends to bf/gf- then everything was going great- I remember always making the comment I was on "cloud 15"! I don't know what happened after that- but it seemed like everything we would do we would end up fussing. I couldn't figure out what could be causing it except maybe the fact that we were ALWAYS togeter. And ofcourse we both have are twirks like anybody. Not to mention he is known for tucking tail when a relationship gets serious. But I thought/know we were different. We had been talking about marriage and future- and he seemed happy and content. Here recently its like we were constantly at eachother- for whatever reason- and everything he would say I could feel myself wanting to do the opposite. I have know idea why, except maybe to prove that I am grown and can make my own decesions. We "broke up" a week ago- but we are both still at the same house. And he keeps making comments about how if I could just be nicer things could work. But I know its NOT all me. He says he doesn't want to talk about "deep" stuff b/c thats all I ever wanted to do(true, I am do like to talk!) and he wants to keep things light right now and see what happens. But I am so bad and the unsureness of the situation. Can't figure out bottom line what he wants. Or what I should do- move?- stay?- try?- move on?? HELP!!!
THANKS!!

Hello I need some help... Im 21 years old and i dont date. Not saying tha ti dont want to but i cant find a date. Im looking for a serious relationship with no drama. I have a 6 year old daughter and i want to know what can i do to find some respectable men to date

hey.. really in need of advice here...!!!!!... me and this guy that i truely care about just broke up.. and now he's dating another girl.... evrything was perfect and the next thing i know he's calling me and telling me that he wants us to stay friends but he also wants to be single... i respected that he told me the truth and then the next thing i know... he is dating his friends ex..... i truely and honestly love him and it would be great for the advice.. thanks!

Okay ladies, I need your advice...PLEASE! I have been dating a man for a year and a half, and when we met, both of us were married...yes, I know, its terrible, but Im past that part. Anyway, we both left our spouses(mine of 10 yrs, his of 20)and have been pretty much happy together for the past 9 months. My divorce was final after 3 months, his is still lingering on... We both have our own places, but he stays with me 99% of the time, in my apartment, and rarely contributes to any household expenses. Over this past weekend, I asked him if he would just let his apartment go, and help me with my bills, since he "lives" with me anyway. We both have struggled with financial issues as of late, and it just made good sense. He said, "no, he would not give it up", and felt like I was out for his money. This pushed me to make him leave, and take all of his belongings with him, it is over....Was I wrong to expect him to help out, or is there something underlying that Im not seeing??? He says I am too possessive, and that is what ended the relationship....

Ok well, ive been having a problem with my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years now, and im VERY much in love with him!! Well he is in the service and is stationed in another state away from me, im going to school right now & hes there for a few more months! Well for about 2 weeks now, hes been acting really strange towards me! He used to always call me, tell me he misses me, cant wait to be home, ya know the i love you's, and its like all of a sudden things are really different between the 2 of us, i keep getting gut feelings like what if hes cheating on me, or whatever! but mind you, hes NEVER done that, & has never been the person to do that, but i dont know whats wrong, i dont want to ask hey is there someone eles, bc i dont want him to be whatever towards me! so is there anyone who can give me any advice, or ya know, could think what could be wrong, i would LOVE your help! thanks for reading!

Hello Ladies,

I use to work at a warehouse 2yrs ago. My current boyfriend use to be a customer of mine. He managed to find me on myspace,about year after I quit the warehouse. He is a great guy, and an excellent chef. He always makes me smile. The only thing that is a bit of a hinderance on our relationship is the fact that he has 2 sons. he custody of both, but the oldest (16yrs) goes away to boarding school and comes home on the weekends, and a 12yr old.
I find myself getting a little annoyed with the fact that he has to spend time with his kids. I know this is wrong, but sometimes I feel like we never have time to ourselves, except for in his bedroom. I get very frustrated because I feel like they are interupting our time sometimes. For example: Just this past weekend my boyfriend had the day off and i knew he was going to spend time with his sons during the day, but after I assumed that the two of us were going to be together, and we weren't. Then the next day, all he did was text me. It was a nice day out so I wanted to try to spend the day with him then. When I kept asking him through text "what are you doing today", "do you have to work" etc, he was not responding, so I assumed he was at work, but then i found out that he wasn't. The thing that bothered me most about that was the fact that he didn't even have the time to call me and let me know if he was going to be around or not, and it didn't seem like he wanted to either. Maybe, i am over reacting a little bit, but at the same time its annoying when I can't see him at least one day out of the weekend. Does anyone feel that it is normal, for me to be feel this way, and how should handle the situation?

HELLO! i have been friends with a very wonderful guy for 6 years.we started to see each other for 4 months. then ran off.
not to far. but, ran all the same.
now he is coming back around. he sayes he wants to start over. i really want to but, i dont know.
he talks a lot about respect, caring , and his feelings for our future.
but, i just think he may be over thinking things.
after all there is 9 years diffrence .

sundance628...

Girlfriend... get out now! I've been there, done that.
These guys are just "needy" right now...
I have learned NEVER to be the rebound person..
alot less headache!!

I am friends with a man going through a divorce. I know in my head its a bad idea to have romantic feeling towards each other. We have even talked about it and both decide we need to wait until he gets divorced and kinda gets things figured out. I know this is for the best and it will work out and we will be together if we still feel the same when he gets through his trials. How do I wait it out and not push him away because I am afraid to get hurt? I have a history of helping men out when they are going through stuff only to have them find someone better.

I am divorced 29 year old and i met a wonderful guy over the summer. I think he is the right one, i know he is the right one, my problem though is my eight year old daughter. She hates him and gives me a hard time because she feels that i would not love her anymore now that i have a boyfriend. Any advice on how to handle this situation?
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lmsdangerus........


38 and 51? what's the big deal? 13 years??? Get over it.
I married a guy who was 12 years older than me... it didn't last, but not because of the age difference.
Now- HE'S married to a girl 17 years younger than him!!

If you meet someone you can "click" with, -- girlfriend.. you better go for it!!

If anyone else has issues with the age difference, then it's THEIR PROBLEM..!!!
I've been divorced for a long time....I'm 48 years old and don't know if I'll ever find anyone I want to spend the rest of my life with... Haven't met anyone yet...
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So........girl.... If this guy was 20 or so years older, I would think about it... but-- you have NO reason to have any issues!!!

I'm new to the Lifetime community. I've visited before but never joined because I don't like the format. I prefer the message board arrangement of a forum. But I'm a big fan of Ian Coburn. I've read his book and followed him when he was on the Lifetime Love Panel. Now he is the expert for Lifetime's new Ask A Guy column. I just wanted to let the community know about the new column under relationships. He's very good and his advice and answers to questions are a mixture of funny and original smarts with fresh insights. I think his advice is the best because of his experience outlined in his book. He's been voted sweetest guy in high school, been a nice guy, a jerk, a player, a bad boy, all of it so he seems to have advice from all the angles and can relate to all the questions. If you have questions about guys he is definitely the person to ask. I'm glad to see him get a column although I wish it were at Glamour or Cosmo because I just find this format on Lifetime irritating. HIs advice is good wherever it is though.

Ladies I need some advice. Throughout my dating years I have always dated a person younger than me or the same age as me. Today I am 38 and still single. All of the relationships I have had ended because they were unfullfilling. Recently I met a man who is 51 years old. Hes not the drop dead gorgous guy that everyone hopes to meet one day. However he is very charming. Hes very loving and caring. He has the biggest heart. Hes very stable and financially secure. He seems to have all of the qualities I need and look for in a partner. I can actually have intelligent conversations with him. The problem is, I know my parents and family will give me a horrible time about him because hes 51 and Im 38. We have not started dating because Im nervous about taking it to the next step. I so badly want to be with him but Im so afraid of how everyone is going to react. I havent told any of my friends about him. Right now we have been spending lots of dollars on text messages and phone calls or having drinks over friendly conversation. He wants to take it the next level and start dating. I feel so happy and safe and secure when hes around. But what should I do. Someone please advise. Even in my heart I fill like hes the one I have been searching for. Buts hes so much older than me. Should I go for it since its my life and no one elses or should I give in to the negative feedback I know I will receive once its made public that Im seeing a 51 year old man.