Q: I went on three really great dates with this guy I met online. He seemed really interested in me, and we had a lot to talk about. At the end of our last date he said he'd call me. That was two weeks ago. I know the chemistry was there, so what happened? And what should I do now? —Reagan, Los Angeles

 

The Lifetime Love Panel responds:

If he was really interested in you, then he would call you. There are excuses of being busy for a few hours, but never for two weeks. He doesn't sound like he's as interested in you as you may be in him. You deserve to be treated better. I would leave him be until he's ready to call you. In the meantime, try to spend time with your friends and family. Do anything and everything to keep your mind off of him. —Judy Bolton and Wendy Bolton Floyd, coauthors of "When Did You Know ... He Was Not The One?"

Two weeks — yikes! Unfortunately, his silence does speak volumes, and it could be his cowardly way of telling you he isn't interested after all. Or perhaps an old girlfriend came back into his life. We could give him the ultimate benefit of the doubt and say it's a family emergency. In any case, there's only one way to know for sure. If you're comfortable calling, I'd say take that approach. Otherwise, shoot him an innocuous e-mail just to see if he responds and take it from there. If he doesn't then, as hard as it is, you should move on. The e-mail could go something like: "Dear Dude, I hope you're well. I've been wondering what you're up to and thought I'd drop you a line. My life has been pretty hectic but exciting these past two weeks — some interesting things are going on at work. Fill me in on all things you when you have a chance." —Samara O'Shea, author of "For the Love of Letters: A 21st-Century Guide to the Art of Letter Writing"

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The truth is, I don't know why he never called. You may never know why. But you still deserve to move on and meet someone new, someone even more fabulous who will call when he says he's going to. Good luck! —Lisa Steadman, author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown"

Call him and invite him to something specific — like a hayride, restaurant, party, concert or sporting event. There could be many reasons why he hasn't called; perhaps he started to date someone else, had unexpected life events or, as much as you don't want to hear it, he is no longer interested. If he declines or doesn't return your call, move on; don't waste energy chasing him when that energy would be better spent meeting another guy. And don't ask him why he hasn't called — leave bringing that up to him; whether he does or not will give you insight into his character or lack of it. —Ian Coburn, author of "God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters"

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