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Is He a Keeper?

Is He a Keeper?

by Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.

Is he someone you should consider keeping around for the long haul? Answer the following questions to find out whether your guy is truly capable of making you happy.

You take a day off from work because you're sick as a dog. Your man:
1 of 7 questions

Option A

Runs to the store and buys every cold remedy available, makes you a cup of lemon tea, and comes home early to look after you.

Option B

Makes sure you have cold medicine and calls during lunch to check up on you.

Option C

Works late as usual, but cancels his after-hours plans.

Option D

Keeps his distance — he's terrified he'll catch your cold.

Your man wants to hang out on a night you planned to have a girls' get-together. His response:
2 of 7 questions

Option A

"How would you like it if I constantly picked my friends over you?"

Option B

"Well, that's the only night that works for me, so I guess we won't see each other this week."

Option C

"You women are always telling men they leave you out, but it's the other way around!"

Option D

"Have a great time! Maybe we can go out for dinner tomorrow night?"

Your guy usually picks out romantic and meaningful presents for you.
3 of 7 questions

Option A

True

Option B

False

You're expecting friends over for dinner, and your house is a total mess. Your guy:
4 of 7 questions

Option A

Tries not to get in the way, so you can get organized.

Option B

Gets upset about what a mess the place is.

Option C

Asks what you need him to do. When he's done with one thing, he asks what's next.

Option D

Takes responsibility for the things he knows how to do (such as uncorking the wine).

You tell your guy you've had a long, hard day. He:
5 of 7 questions

Option A

Rattles off a list of things that went badly for him that day.

Option B

Tells you that he doesn't like to come home to your complaining.

Option C

Listens to you, but his eyes glaze over after two minutes.

Option D

Is receptive and sympathetic. He pours you a drink or rubs your shoulders.

Your man tells you how much he loves you, how lucky he is to have you or how extraordinary you are, at least once every couple of weeks.
6 of 7 questions

Option A

True

Option B

False

When you make love, your partner:
7 of 7 questions

Option A

Never asks you what you want, but he does try to make sure that you have an orgasm.

Option B

Almost always waits for you to have an orgasm first and says, "I love you," at some point.

Option C

Usually falls asleep after his orgasm, whether or not you've had one.

Option D

You can't remember — it's been so long since you last made love.