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Rick and V and the Red Sox: The Dream that Never Happened. But Still Could.

By Michelle Buonfiglio Fri., Oct. 5, 2007 , 10:03 am EDT

I woke up this morning feverish and tangled in the sheets from a dream involving Vishous from J.R. Ward's "Lover Unbound," and Sports Illustrated columnist Rick "My Hero" Riley.

No, it wasn't that kind of dream. I mean, Vishous is mated and all. And while, if I had it, I'd pay really fabulous money to see a Vishous and Butch reunion -- if ya feel me -- V and Rick just don't hold the same fantasy appeal.

So, in my dream, Rick says to me, he says, "I read J.R. Ward's new ‘Slice of Life' - dang, that chick's got some chops - and it warms the cockles of this Irish boy's heart to see that V and his shellan are rollin, despite their, um, differences.

"I mean, relationships are tough," Reilly continued. "Just look at the Cop and Marissa. Man, that female's got some worth, what with how she just stood aside and supported and loved Butch and Vishous while they worked out their thang.

"And who really thought they'd make it, with all they were up against, with her bein all Glymera, and him all Red-Sox-lovin', Boston-Southie-squawkin Brother in waiting. Worryin about their hookin up - especially after that first lovin disaster -- was like wondering whether the Sox were really gonna take the pennant back in '04. Nice in theory, buuuut..."

I had to stop Reilly there. I mean, I may have a crush on his crazy mad columnist powers and all, but my Boston Red Sox just took game one of the American League div playoffs. And I, like the foolish, living-abroad-as-it-were member of Red Sox Nation I am, I still, ahem, [whispers] believe.

And I'm not the only one. Take First Couple of Red Sox Nation, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner. Not only do they remain steadfast to the BoSox through feast and famine, they're relationship seems to be standing the test of -- well, more time than most Hollywood pairings. My advice to them? Keep loving the Sox, and it will return to you many fold.

Everybody loves to give advice, especially relationships advice. I gave lots of it to my married friends when I was single, and they still managed to stay together.

A couple weeks ago, my editor, the Divine Miss R said, "Hey. Howza bout you stop trying to figure out how to work Rick Reilly and pro wrestlers into romance columns, and start earning your salary? In fact, "Why don't you go ask some romance authors, ‘What's the secret to keeping romance alive in real-life relationships?'"

So I did. You can view the astonishing results here in "Keeping Love Alive."

I leave this weekend for a romantic trip to Italy celebrate my 15th Anniversary! Yeah, my husband's coming along, smarty pants. Maybe you could help us...

What's the best way to keep relationships happy? You don't have to be in one to give great advice, btw. What do you think is the secret to keeping romance alive in real-life relationships?
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Ciao, Bellas!
I'm hopin to be able to drop in a couple times from the Old Country. I know I can trust you guys with the place while I'm gone. Just, please, clean up after yourselves during the GuestBlogger Week party. And no playing darts against a Nicholas Sparks poster again. We just finished re-plastering after the last time.
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Encore! Beckett, Affleck/Garner photo credits: Getty Images.
Encore due!
You still can read J.R. Ward's "Butch and V: The Interview that Never Happened."

Encore tre! Vicki Lewis Thompson is next week's featured author at "Romance: B(u)y the Book!" We've got video interviews and a great excerpt from "Over Hexed," the first novel in her Hexed series.
Encore quattro! Plus, next week is "GuestBlog Week!" Some of our fave LTR friends take over...Tu: Caroline Linden; Wed: VLT; Th: Eve Silver/Kenin; Fri: Vivi Anna and Michele Hauf!
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Michelle - I hope you and your husband have a simply gorgeous anniversary!

I will do my very best to behave while you're gone :) As for advice...I don't have any...nope, none :( I haven't had a relationship yet...but I'll be sure to read all the advice from you and the Bellas...it should hopefully stand me in good stead if I ever get round too...dipping my toe in the water so to speak :)

orannia
Buongiorno, Bellas! These are all great thoughts. I gotta agree with the little things. Like, if I say, "My day stunk," I want him to be all,"oh, that's terrible" and hug me and stuff, not just expect that I'm strong and can muscle through it. The first is what makes me feel special. It's consideration. Although I gotta agree with Julie. Sex is really really important. Even when it's not being had in a relationship, if the couple's on the same wavelength, they understand why and either ride it out, work with it, support it, or work through it. When it's not happening and nobody's talking is when relationships suffer._____So, yes. We're off in a few hours. I'll take lots of pictures and eat some good food. I'll tell you all about it when we get back. I'm kinda in a dream/shock state right now. When we woke up, Dave said, "Um, do you wanna go to Europe today?" And I was like, " well, ok. Or we could just go to the corn maze and see the pig races." Fall in MN can give even Florence some tough competition..._____Ciao, Bellas! I'll miss you. Have fun this week, and say hi to everyone for me. And tell me all about what happened here when I get back. :)
I totally in favor of the small things. They are so precious. Of course sometimes a grand gesture is great, but at daily basis, just a laugh or a hug or a kiss, makes a huge difference. ______ Julie you are so right, great sex does help a lot. lol ______ Michelle have a great trip. Bring lots of pictures back. Eat a lot and look at shoes. I love Italian shoes and men. lol
compromise, compromise, compromise and a great sense of humor, fabulous sex and a man who will support you even if you choose to write erotic romances (oops that last bit is all me!)Kate P
It's funny. My mom and I are close but we never have those kind of discussions. I think it has to do with the fact that in my mind I was imacculately conceived. =op
LOL Julie you are so right! I always wonder how there are people who get married before they have sex. I said that one time to my Mom (were very close) and she just looked at me. I was all come on could you imagine marrying someone w/out having sex first and then finding out that it sucks, that you’re totally not compatible. You would be spending the rest of your life having bad sex. She the looked at me and was all “You’re Right” words that don’t come out of her mouth very often because my Mom is one of those annoying people who is always right LOL :o) I don’t even think I know what it’s like anymore since it’s been so long (TMI?) but that’s my take on the whole sex thing.
Have fun in Italy. Stay safe. And bring me back something pretty. =o)
I'm in the "it's the small things" crowd but there is something that trumps even that: SEX! If it ain't good or practiced often then why the trip to Italy? You could just as soon stay home and watch reruns. =op (you knew someone had to say it) ___________ HUGE CONGRATS, MICHELLE AND DAVE!! _______ Fifteen years ain't no small potatoes. I bet you guys could fill the rest of us in on the secret. =o) __________ {{{BIG HUGS}}}
I don't have any advice, but wanted to congratulate you again on celebrating your anniversary and wish you well on your fabulous trip! MUAH!
Yeah, totally second what Monica says too! Someone who'll listen to you and not expect you to change the way you are... absolutely crucial!_____ And yes, Queen Bella, have a wonderful, beautiful time in Italy!!! Love, Portia.
Thoughtful gestures... that's what does it for me. Whether it be a lovely trip to Italy or a simple bouquet for an anniversary. Or, as Leeann says, someone who can cheer you up when you're fed up or depressed, or who takes care of you when you're not feeling so great. Or in my case, someone who's always there to drive me to any place I need to go - because I can't drive... Stuff like that might not be conventionally romantic, but it's *caring* and that's what matters in the long haul of a relationship.____ ps. and eek! *I've* been married 30 years too!
Just wanted to pop in and wish you bon voyage, Michelle! I hope you two have a great trip.

I feel very inexpert these days on what makes things work, but I've boiled it down to one verb or noun. You choose. It's a choice. You choose love. So it may not matter what you do together, it's about that choice. Enough philosophy. Have fun!
Jessica
I blogged about what it takes a while back, and my thoughts are that you have to listen to each other, talk to each other, and don't try to change the other person. Accept them for who they are. It's why you fell in love with them. ___________Have a wonderful trip Queen Bella. Bring back lots of pics to post!! Mon
I wouldn’t know form first hand experience, but I wouldn’t think that it wasn’t any one thing. It would be all of the little things that most due without even thinking about it. Yeah I’m sure that sometimes a big gesture would be nice, like oh I don’t know taking ones spouse to Italy for a romantic trip for their 15 year anniversary (congratulations by the way). But I would want someone who knew how to make me smile and laugh, who knows how to make me feel better when I’m sick or just feeling blue. Some one who knows when to just let you cry and holds you or gets just as excited as you do over something really silly. When you still hold hands when you go for a walk after 30 years of marriage like my parents still do. It’s something special and different for every relationship.