tell you all about her experience at the FBI's Quantico training facility -- and how it can relate to your life. Please offer Andrea your warmest, "Just the facts, ma'am" Bella buongiorno...From Andrea: It's amazing how one can apply FBI research to everyday life.
How?
In order to give my new romantic thriller, "Twisted," genuine flavor and authenticity, I went straight to the source-- the FBI. After undergoing extensive security clearance and background checks, I was given the green light, and I headed straight down to Quantico-- the FBI's renowned facility whose name rings a bell with every crime drama fan on earth. But this was the real deal. I met with Special Agents, saw the trainees in action, and
watched, asked, listened, and absorbed. To my great fortune, I was able to observe-- up-close-and-personal-- the Crisis Negotiation Unit's hostage negotiating and rescue exercises.What a thrill! And, getting back to my original point, I came away with some FBI tactics that everyone can use during those stressful times when we "crisis negotiate" in our personal lives:
* Negotiate to Win: Pragmatism is crucial. Therefore, never try to negotiate with a man when he's hungry or tired. The results can be disastrous.
* Never Put Yourself in the Direct Line of Fire: When delivering bad news to your spouse or significant other, use a cell phone. E-mailing or text messaging is better still.
* Build Trust: Your puppy has seized your favorite blouse and is holding it hostage. Make sure to offer a more desirable, yet deliverable, treat in exchange. Ultimately, success is measured by the release of the hostage and all parties being safe and secure.
Have you ever been in a personal situation where you wish you knew these tactics BEFORE commencing negotiations?
Are there other tactics you find useful when negotiating with a loved one?
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