Understanding your guy's element can help you better understand him.
Astro-genius doesn’t happen overnight — it took me years of reading, researching, observing and experiencing the zodiac signs, learning every detail I could about each one. But if you’re looking to quickly get the gist of the 12 signs and tap into your inner astrologist, I have a brilliant little shortcut to share with you: the elements. In Western astrology there are four of them: Fire, Water, Earth and Air. Each sign is ruled by one of these elements and will carry its traits.
You might not know much about a person’s sign, but if you know the element that rules it you’ll have general insight into his or her dating habits, sex style and romantic aptitude. Get the goods on the elements that rule both your sign and your guy’s, and use this as a cheat sheet to discover if he’s in it for the long haul or looking for a temporary fix.
—Astrosexologist Kiki T.
The Elements and Their Signs
Fire signs: Aries, Leo and Sagittarius
Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces
Earth signs: Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn
Air signs: Gemini, Libra and Aquarius
Love Stats: Fire signs are passionate and live to express themselves. They love spontaneity and following their instincts. In romance, the chase is everything, and they tend to be aggressive about getting their way. After nabbing their prey, they typically like getting right to the sex or some sort of physical action — they don’t waste much time worrying about what will happen afterward. And while fire signs enjoy foreplay, their personality is so hot and ready for action that their patience can only last for a certain amount of time. Being the element that rules ego, they don’t do well with compromise — unless they’re falling deeply in love (even so, it only extends their tolerance a little more).
Smoke Signals: If a Fire sign isn’t ready to commit, it’s obvious right off the bat. They’ll have no qualms being demanding in the bedroom while leaving their lovers high and dry. The sign to know if one has fallen for you is when they give you all the fanfare in bed and expect nothing in return. Yes, selflessness is a trait only a Fire sign in love will whip out to impress the object of their affection.
Love Stats: Water signs are emotional, intuitive and moody. They absorb the feelings around them and tend to be super-sensitive — even a bit psychic. They typically make assessments about their prospects’ potential upon meeting them, as they are so delicate they like to protect themselves immediately from getting hurt or let down. Their love can be fast and overwhelming — as they rarely ever do anything halfway (most just don’t know how to). Plus, since they are so über-sensitive, they do tend to be super-romantic, making love their highest priority. After all, as rulers of emotions, they thrive on the idea of “soul mates.”
Flash Flood Warnings: If a Water sign thinks of their mate as disposable prey, their primal sexual energy will be in high gear. They’ll aim to make their one shot in the sack a lasting impression, in order to satisfy their own ego and nothing more. However, with the one they truly care for, they’ll be more traditional and desire emotional sex. You can tell they’ve fallen for you if they want to lie around and cuddle after the passion has been consummated.
Love Stats: Earth signs are solid. They embrace logic when it comes to relationships, as in taking it slow with well-thought-out steps to winning their mate’s heart. They work efficiently and will remain calm in adversity. They are dependable, look to build bonds slowly and stay committed. When they give their word, they are the least likely of the bunch to change how they feel — which makes them a bit traditional and stubborn, meaning their patience can sometimes translate to being the doormats of love. In fact, Earth signs are so giving that they often think of themselves last in a relationship.
Earthquake Alert: Earth signs are sweethearts to the ones they love. To them, sex is an art form where stamina is the medium and their lover’s body is the canvas. Shut the door and pull those blinds shut when you’ve got one coming at you — expect foreplay all the way and sexual marathoning all day. You can tell they’ve fallen for you when they wine and dine you after the sex, and bring in the romance. Otherwise, if they have gotten what they want, they’ll shut down promptly and try to turn you into the bad guy by acting out until you dump them.
Love Stats: Air signs are thinkers. They love experimenting in and out of the bedroom. Their imaginations drive them, and they go wherever their curiosities get piqued. One never knows what an Air sign will come up with or morph into, as anything that springs into their mind can affect their decisions and motives. In love, they would never fall for anyone with whom they enjoy lively repartee and a good laugh. They are free-spirited types, which means space is something they need in any partnership; having a lover with a streak of independence is essential. Of all the elements, air signs tend to be the most unconventional in their philosophies and their approach towards relationships.
Tornado Caution: Air signs love trying new things and want to twist their minds into pretzels — anything that’s out of the ordinary and makes them curious turns them on. This can make them a bit neurotic and uneasy to have a relationship with, as they do have a tendency to go back and forth when making decisions. However, when in love they can be obsessive, and the one way they will show it to you is in their communication — as in being free enough to confess their sexual fantasies, feeling comfortable enough to tell you what they truly desire and being definitive with decisions regarding you. (Just be wary of the obsession going too far and them making all of the choices without consulting you.) If they aren’t in it for the long haul, they’ll become aloof or condescending, making it obvious that they think they’re ever so superior to you.