Holidays are about coming together to enjoy one another’s company, so try not to torture yourself by micromanaging every morsel. While the details you bring to the table delight many of your guests, let others share in the duties, even if it means messily plated food or mismatched serving pieces. Time spent together in the kitchen is great for catching up, so let yourself enjoy the camaraderie. When you’re seated at the table, ask your guests to go around and share what they’re thankful for. A little sappy, yes, but more heartwarming than anything else. Awww.